It seems that Mothers in Law get a bad name. Maybe it’s from the several American movies released which use them as a perfect opportunity to create a dramatic, yet humorous recipe for the ever-appealing romantic comedy. Think ‘Monster in Law’ or ‘Sweet Home Alabama’. Or maybe it’s because the horror story of one woman’s experience of a nightmare mother in law among a thousand good mother in law stories, may seem more interesting and therefore travel faster.
Even the sound of a Mother in Law can conjure up some unsavoury images similar to that of a baddie or a villain who comes in the way of your favourite heroin in your much-loved childhood fairy-tale. However, don’t let all that put you off I’m sure your Mother in law is lovely and understanding! And even if she isn’t, one thing is for sure you will want to keep her happy in the run up to your wedding day.
Fear not, we have some lovely Léanas tips on how to do this!
Ask her to help out or organise something
If you give her a set task to do she will be focused on doing it to the best standard she can and she will feel grateful that you trust her with the responsibility. Play to her strengths. If you know she is crafty and creative and you haven’t got a creative bone in your body then why not ask her if she would organise the flowers for the church.
Include her in key events
Ask her if she would like to come along when you are wedding dress shopping. This could be a family affair or you could just humour her by trying some dresses on for her in the early stages of your wedding planning and getting her opinion.
Spend some quality time together just the two of you
Chances are your Mother in law has planned her own wedding once and she could offer you some good advice. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and she could give you tips on what and what not to do. You don’t have to take this advice but she will feel appreciated nevertheless. You could also use this time to get to know her better and what your hubby to be was like as a child and steer away from wedding talk.
Have a Mother’s day out with both you and your Fiancé
Both you and your fiancé could invite your mothers to dinner or go sight-seeing for a day. This will build some fond memories and gives both mothers a chance to bond and chat which takes the heat off you and your future hubby! Win-Win!
Kill her with Kindness!
Naturally, you will want to give your Mother a wedding gift and it would be nice to include your mother in law when doing this too as it seals the deal for good vibes to come! We at Léanas Gift in a Box have beautiful Mother of the bride and groom gifts that offer special sentiments that they will treasure for years to come. They cost roughly the same amount as a bouquet of flowers but last a lot longer! You could also pair our gift boxes with a beautiful bouquet for added brownie points!
Happy wedding planning ladies!